Thinking Like A Guy: The Survey of the Sexes Part 1

Last week I wrote a short post that discussed thinking like a dude. At the end of it I had an epiphany that wouldn't be fantastic to ask chicks and dudes the same questions and see where we ended up. What do we actually agree on?

Here we go.

1. Being single means...
He said:Having time to figure out what’s going on with everything else in your life. Maybe even figure out why exactly you’re single and meeting new people.
She said: Being confident, sexy, fabulous, sassy, carefree, and empowered to do things how I wanna do them! But also finding your other half.
My take: We're on the same page with this one - we both look at being single as opportunity, but also a search for someone to make us happier.

2. Being married means...
He said: You’re done with being single ever again. Question 1 has allowed you to find yourself and put you in a good enough position with your life that you’re ready to spend it with one person that you love and care about.
She said: Being with someone you can't live without. They're your best friend, partner and can make you laugh until your sides hurt.It's an outward expression of love.
My take: Guys look at it as a finality. Girls look at it as a beginning. There's no wrong answer - we can agree that it also means finding someone who knows you better than anyone.

3. What annoys the shit out of you about the opposite sex...
He said: When they’re OVER emotional, critical and enjoy gossiping about other people.
She said: Ego, stubbornness, when men are with women they know they shouldn't be with just because they're getting laid, and they never plan ahead.
My take: It's pretty obvious here that there will always be things that annoy us about each other but clearly the guys attack the emotions and the girls attack the lack therof.

The next post talks about interpreting the physical side of dating and relationships...what do you believe in when it comes to kissing, sex on the first date and social priorities. Do we really think differently or are we just on different playing fields when it comes to communicating it?

*Thanks to all the responses for this survey...you guys rock.
Image is from the movie "The Break-Up"

For the Love of California

I've been to California a number of times for both business and pleasure. From Napa Valley to San Diego, I have never been disappointed by the gorgeous locals and weather. Not to mention some incredible looking people.

There were moments (different times) throughout my adult life where I actually thought about moving to California. Different reasons. A guy. A job. A change. But they never panned out. I couldn't fully commit to picking up and creating an entirely new life for myself. Props to people who are brave enough to do it. To me, California always seems like a good idea.

An old friend lives in San Diego. The kind of old friend that use to write letters when we were younger. The kind of old friend that if life were a movie, would end up being the "right guy" - but it's always about timing, right?

I saw him the past few times I was out there - the sweet kid turned into a great guy. Not surprised. I talk to him every now and again. He's happy and in love out there. I'm happy and fabulous here.

My point here is that I'm a believer that the people in your life or ones that you have different encounters with usually are there for a reason. You can usually figure out why they're a part of your life. For the benefit of them. For the benefit of you. You help each other through different moments. Whatever it may be, I'm sure you can assign a reason why each person you know is a part of your life. The guy in California is the one person that I have no idea why he's a part of my life. Friend? Sure. Regardless, I'm glad to know him. And it gives me a reason to go back to Cali.

Is there someone like that a part of your life? You're not sure how or why they're there, but they're there? I wonder if I'm alone in this.

Back to Cali.

If you've never been, GO. San Diego is beautiful. San Francisco is breathtaking. Monterrey is memorable. Where is your favorite?