Bad Boys Get the Attention, But Nice Guys Get the Girls

We've been taught from early on that "bad boys" are worth all the trouble. After a few years, failed attempts at relationships, watching others crash and burn, I can absolutely say that that bad boys are not worth the trouble.

Defining what a "bad boy" is can be tough since they don't all look like Danny Suko these days. They may not rock the leather jacket and transport themselves in dangerous vehicles, but the "bad boy" image is not worth the effort. (Nice guys, stop thinking being a good guy isn't worth it, cause it is). Where I think nice guys can get a bad rap is when it's overkill. There's always a little sense of mystery and intrigue we want when we're first pursuing someone, but too much of it gets old really fast. Just like someone that is too nice and can be mistaken for a doormat, gets old much faster.

The best way that I've seen it broken down was from a recent AskMen article is this, "The unpredictable guy who lives hard and adopts the love-‘em-and-leave-‘em philosophy will inevitably leave a train of disgust in his wake. However, the guy who opens doors and pulls out chairs will also fail if he can’t be spontaneous and passionate. Really, it’s more about respect laced with a touch of deference at just the right moments when it comes to being a nice guy and finishing first."

The bad guys are jaded and sexy. They tend to have the "I can heal you" characteristic. But unless you're getting paid to be a doctor or nurse, who wants to "fix" anybody? These are the guys that also develop some sort of self-loathing complex later in life that will, if nothing else, bring you therapy bills and reasons to hold back from having consistent sex. Nice guys are never a sure thing, but I can tell you that girls are getting smarter. We've stopped overlooking the nice guys and the nerds and are realizing that these are the guys that treat girls the way we've always wanted. Nice guys get the girls these days...who knew!

Do you agree? Let me know :)