Crossing the Friend Line

Rachel put Ross in the friend zone for about a decade, but eventually found that the great guy was right there the whole time. Watts fell for her BFF Keith in Some Kind of Wonderful. Two of my close friends in fact were only friends for a long time before they were anything more. Fast forward about five years and they just celebrated their 2nd wedding anniversary.

So where and why do the lines cross? I had an incredibly insightful conversation with one of my girlfriends this past week about knowing when and who it's okay to cross this line with. Does it become a one time thing to get the attraction out? Does it become a convenient friends with benefits situation? Or does it become the happily ever after you've been hoping for?

At the end of this conversation, we agreed on one thing. No matter who the potential persons are, if they were once friends and choose to step out of the friend-zone to become something more, there is never going back. So be ready for whatever you and they have just started.

AskMen.com has some insight about this very topic. This web site has some really quirkey stories about all things girl vs. guy. When it comes to the "more than friends" topic here are a few recommendations from their post called "Friend to Flame in 5 Easy Steps":

1. Highlight the physical characteristics you possess that you know appeal to her.

2. Curb all “guy talk” in her presence.

3. Place her in an environment that will enable a shift in her perception.

4. Act chivalrous.

5. Use suggestive body language.

Check out the full post and details on these "tips" here.

I'm a sucker for a good romance story or at least hearing about the great details from a steamy affair. I say go for it.

If you know are all too familiar with this topic and want to share your success (or failed attempts on making it happen) post a comment!